Relationships - Dominant Patterns II

Acceptance Relationship

Most of the relationships fall into this category. It is something that the people expected when they fell into the relationship. The people support, trust and enjoy each other’s company. They have the freedom of being themselves. But when the combative instincts and difference between interests are not very strong, then even a scripted relationship described above can turn into an acceptance relationship.

Individual Assertion Relationship

The basis of the individual assertion relationships is the needs and desires of both the people involved. The focus is on the struggles of their partners and requires the other person’s appreciation and acknowledgement. This relationship has the elements of an acceptance relationship but with more flexibility and permeable boundaries. Personal creativity and growth are encouraged. If these people go for holiday for two weeks, they will spend the first week doing separate things but then spent the rest of the time with each other. The partners are able to appreciate their differences and widen the range of people they can interact with. These partners may appear different from each other from the outside but are very similar in handling conflicts. They do not mind waiting to discover the manner in which their feelings evolve.

Transference Relationships

Any relationship which falls into a category described above can become a transference relationship. In the transference relationships, we behave with the partner in the same way we used to behave with a close person earlier in the life. The mistaken attributes form a large part of this relationship which weakens the relationship. Confronting and allowing the mistakes to let go can lead to a long lasting relationship.

Mature Relationships

When the people near their middle ages, they do not care for making a statement about themselves through the relationship. The partners move towards a relationship which is responsive to their uniqueness. In a mature relationship, there is lack of judgment and expectations. The fights now become tiresome and boring. The partners in this relationship become the primary source of support without dependency and have a quality of contentment and ease. However, there may be a little excitement in small things.