Relationships - Dominant Patterns IV

Romantic Relationship

This is another relationship that we have to choose ourselves. One cannot survive alone in this world. You need to have a partner who will love you selflessly throughout your life. A relationship involving love is perhaps the most beautiful relationship in the world. Marriage is the beginning of a new life. It brings with itself a lot of responsibility. A good relationship is not the one which simply lasts for your whole life but one which needs to grow all the time and coexists with individuality and self esteem. For a marriage or romantic relationship to last successfully, many counselors stress upon the need for space in the relationship. In such relationship, both the people should be involved and committed instead of each acting as a repository of his or her own desires. Both the people involved need to be forever ready to take responsibility for themselves and their action throughout the course of the relationship. A conflict in the relationship occurs when both the people are at fault. It is never the fault of one person.

Siblings

A relationship among siblings is a very special one. We have no say in the choice of our sibling and we have to live with him/her throughout our lives. There is both love and hate in a relationship among siblings. But no matter whatever we feel about them, we cannot live without them. There is perhaps no other relationship in the world with love and hate together. Having a sibling helps in developing important social skills. For a person without sibling, it takes a long time to develop such skills but is developed faster in the presence of a brother or sister. People having siblings learn to share more easily than others. They are also good at resolving conflicts and are supportive and cooperative. In fact, having an irritating and even bullying sibling is better because it teaches us about the important relationships in life which are not very easy to handle.

Parents

Becoming parents is perhaps one of the most important achievements in the life of a person. There is nothing more fulfilling in this world to see a child grow. Every parent wants his/her child to become successful and happy in the long run. Good parenting is very essential for any child. No doubt, parents want their children to be good in studies and excel in other walks of life as well. But this is what every parent in this world wants. What really is the meaning of good parenting? Good parenting is not just about imbibing discipline in your child or making it excellent in studies. Good parenting means allowing your child to grow in its own way and helping it alongside. Every child has its limitations and boundaries. There is no use in pushing a child to go beyond its limitations because it will bear no fruit. Give your child freedom to follow its dreams and heart’s desires, and guide it along its way. Most parents commit the mistake of making their child choose a career that they want it to pursue, whether the child wants to pursue it or not. Also, parents use all kinds of methods, including force to make their child disciplined. This is not the way to deal with children. You need to teach them values like honesty and integrity. Children need unconditional love from parents. They are like clay; they will mould themselves the way their parents are. Be a very good role model for your children. Also keep a check that they are not following any bad habits. Patience is the key to having good children.